November 19, 2012

10 Questions to Help You Decide If You’re Ready to Get Sober


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Getting SoberAre you ready to get sober? Maybe? Sort of?  You’re not sure? Do you have what it takes? How will you live without a substance? Are you ready to consider a program of rehab in Massachusetts? The decision to get sober takes courage and willingness. It takes discipline and commitment. But perhaps the #1 reason people choose to get sober is the realization that “life has become unmanageable”. In fact, that is Step One in 12-Step Programs: “Admitted that I was powerless over alcohol (drugs) and that my life had become unmanageable.” Has your life become unmanageable? Here are 10 questions that can help you make that decision for yourself.

1) Are You Powerless Over Your Addiction?

Do you use alcohol or drugs “without your own permission”? In other words, do you NEED to use even when you don’t WANT to? Even when you’ve promised yourself or others that you won’t? Is your physical need for a substance so great that it controls you? Are the people in your life pleading with you to put down the drink or drug – to consider entering one of the excellent programs that provide rehab in Massachusetts.

2) Has Your Thinking Become Obsessive?

Do you spend much of your time thinking about alcohol or drugs? How will I get it? Pay for it? Hide it? Use it? Does your addiction occupy most of your thinking? Has it “taken over” your life?

3) Have you lost a job? A home?

Has your addiction made you unable to perform the tasks required by your job? Have you been fired, or risk being fired, for calling in sick too often? For no-shows? For using or being under the influence on the job? Is it becoming a struggle to hold a job? Have you lost your source of income? Has this caused you to lose an apartment or home? Are you living with a friend, in a shelter, or on the streets?

4) Have you lost relationships?

Do family, friends and co-workers avoid you because your addiction has a negative effect on them? They feel sad, helpless, angry, frustrated, worried…a range of feelings that has caused them to cut you out of their lives? Are you living a “double life” to try to hide your addiction from the people in your life…trying to maintain relationships with lies and deception?

5) Have you lost the ability to be a good parent?

Have your children been taken away from you? Are your children suffering because of your addiction? Is your home no longer safe? Are you unable to provide for their basic needs – food, shelter, clothing, love, safety and security?

6) Have you lost self-respect?

Are you filled with shame over your addiction? Do you feel “less-than” others? Are you embarrassed by your own behaviors, your losses? Knowing that you are living a life that others don’t condone or respect can make you feel worthless.

7) Have you had trouble with the law?

Have you been arrested for driving under the influence? For possession? Have the police been called because of your actions?  Are you engaging in criminal behaviors to support your addiction? Have you been confined to jail or institutions?

8) Is your addiction causing others pain?

Are the people who love and care about withdrawing from you? Are they having less and less to do with you because they have tried to help, but to no avail? Are they hurt, angry, fearful or resentful about your addiction? Have friends and loved ones urged you to consider entering a program of drug or alcohol rehab in Massachusetts.  Are you personally in so much pain that no one else’s pain matters?

9) Are you filled with fear, unhappiness or depression?

12-step programs refer to addiction as a “spiritual malady”. The spiritual core, or inner life of the individual is so filled with pain that self-medicating seems like the only option. In recovery, facing our pasts and our pain can lead to a sense of wholeness; health of body, mind and spirit.

10) Have you suffered enough losses?

Take a look at the previous nine questions. Notice how many of them refer to loss.  Have you lost your self-respect? Have you lost jobs? Lost relationships? Lost children? Lost a home? Lost your freedom? And the list goes on. The common denominator in addiction is LOSS. Addiction takes so many good things away from us.  Ask yourself, have you lost enough that you are willing to do the work required to get sober, and get them back

If you answered yes to many of these questions, and have decided that you are ready to get sober, you don’t have to do it alone. There are many skilled addiction specialists who can help you take the next step toward recovery. There are a variety of programs for rehab in Massachusetts. Some provide inpatient care; others provide support on an outpatient basis.  Wherever you begin your journey to sobriety, “recovery starts with a single step” — asking for help.



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